Music has a unique power to transport us to specific moments in time, evoking memories and emotions with just a few notes. For Edwin and me, there are a handful of special songs that have become the soundtrack to our relationship. I liken it to a musical time capsule, encapsulating the emotions of our early days, special occasions, and everyday moments. It’s melodies that have grown with us, weaving into the fabric of our life together. Now that our oldest is 3-years-old, we can already see that he has subconsciously come to know the power of music. He knows so many of our special songs and they have become important to him as well. Our songs, now our children’s too.
I was listening to one of our songs the other day and realizing how much power it had over me and how it changed my mood, for the better, so immediately. It got me thinking about the prompt, do you and your husband have a song? Or you and your partner have a song?
Do You and Your Husband Have a Song?
Do you and your husband have a song? Edwin says he fell in love with me the day after he met me while sitting behind me in the backseat of our friend Tim’s 4Runner in 2010. It was in a moment spent watching me sing along to “Mr. Jones” by the Counting Crows through the car’s side mirror, windows rolled down while driving south on the 405. The three of us collectively had a wicked hangover as we left Los Angeles for Corona del Mar but you know, Mr. Jones and me tell each other fairy tales. The rest for Edwin, he says, is history.
That song undeniably defines our relationship and reminds me so much of Edwin that I can feel my heart speed up with joy and can feel the blood in my body warming all the way down to my toes when it comes on. This is true even still to this day.
It also reminds me of Tim and his wife, my best friend, Allison. The song is a bit of a song for the four of us really. It wasn’t that the four of us didn’t previously know or love “Mr. Jones,” we just listened to it over and over and over again all summer long – in the car, on the beach, dancing in the Blue House kitchen, cocktailing on the patio in St. Malo, everywhere, all the time. We saw The Counting Crows in concert together in Newport sometime afterwards. It was our song and still is. If I had to pick a single day of my life to relive, there are of course the obvious days – the day I got engaged, my wedding day, the days my children were born, the big life changing days – but there are also so many summer days at The Blue House.
I’d be hard pressed to pick a day other than a June, July, or August day in 2010. The nostalgia is real but that was the longest string of perfect days. Allison and I talk about it all the time. Edwin and I talk about it all the time. It was magic. So, Mr. Jones is magic. Psst, more summer 2010 music here.
Kings of Leon
There have been other songs along the way too. Kings of Leon was another big band for Edwin and me. On steady rotation during the summer of 2010 and ever since, the band became synonymous with our relationship after we saw them that summer at The Hollywood Bowl for our very first date. It was a double date with Edwin’s sister and her fiancé, now husband. A night the four of us still reminisce and laugh about. Edwin actually uninvited Tim and invited me instead after meeting me. We saw the band again later that week in Orange County with Allison and Tim so no harm, no foul. As with The Counting Crows, there are a handful of Kings of Leon songs that immediately come to mind when reflecting on our relationship, “I Want You” at the top of the list. That song gets me every single time.
“That’s How Strong My Love Is”
I’d be remiss if I didn’t include our first dance song, “That’s How Strong My Love Is” by Otis Redding. The best best best of the best songs.
If I was the sun way up there
I’d go with love most everywhere
I’ll be the moon when the sun goes down
Just to let you know that I’m still around
I’d go with love most everywhere with Edwin. The lyrics of the song so beautifully define unconditional, unshakable love. I think there is no better wedding song. When “That’s How Strong My Love Is” comes on, I tell my boys about it and its meaning to us… every single time.
Another one of our songs is “Blackbird” by The Beatles. During one of our early nights at home as first-time parents, we were struggling to calm Rowan’s middle of the night cries. Edwin went downstairs in search of something to aid us while I rocked Rowan gently in my arms. In the midst of my sheer exhaustion, I couldn’t think of the words to many songs to sing to Rowan to sooth him but “Blackbird” easily came to mind.
Edwin walked in and through the bleary eyes, brain fog, emotional overload of being up in the middle of the night with a newborn, I still remember him saying he couldn’t picture anything more beautiful than his wife singing The Beatles to his son. I still sing my children “Blackbird” all the time and Rowan now knows all the words and sings along with me. He requests the song when he is sleepy, has a boo-boo, or feels under the weather.
There are other songs and albums (we listen to Pet Sounds all the time so Rowan always asks for The Beach Boys!) Edwin and I share, that we collectively love, and that pull on our heartstrings. Music is important to both of us so it’s very intertwined in our memories, our relationship, and in our house. Music is always playing throughout our house on our record player or through our Sonos or Alexa. So, I wonder, do you and your partner or do you and your husband have a song? Is it a song from when you first met, your first dance song, or something else entirely? Does it make you smile, reminisce, or feel a deep connection? Something to think about as you start your week. Maybe put on your song this evening when you are together and the day’s work is done. See how it makes you feel.